Daniel J. DeNoon authored a wonderful compilation of information on the WebMD website, entitled Romance After 60. “When it comes to sex, use it or lose it” says a noted sex educator. “You should continue to have good sex for the same reason you should continue to get good exercise. It’s taking care of yourself. Do it whether you feel like it or not. ”
The chaste older person.
The dirty old geezer.
The horny old broad.
Stereotypes all!!!
“The stereotype is grim” says Walter M. Bortz II,MD, author of WE LOVE TOO SHORT AND DIE TOO LONG. “The reality is that older people are a lot sexier than younger people think. The common notion is that when you are old you don’t-maybe shouldn’t – have sex. Our studies show that older people are sexier in attitude and performance than they have been credited for.” And that performance has some interesting documentation.
“You must realize that in the US the biggest use of prostitutes is on the day Social Security checks come out” says John Morley MD, director of the division of geriatric medicine at St Louis University.
“People who are older get very little support from the younger generation about sex” says Joani Blank, MPH, author of STILL DOING IT: WOMEN AND MEN OVER 60 WRITE ABOUT THEIR SEXUALITY. “Young people identify everyone in the next generation with their parents, and of course, they don’t have sex.” The danger is that people come to accept these stereotypes as true. They then risk losing one of the most important parts of their lives and their health.
“Sex is good for you.” says the 63 year old Blank, a sex educator for more than 25 years. “You should continue to have good sex for the same reason you should continue to get good exercise. It’s taking care of yourself. Wake up your body again if it has been shut down. Do it whether you feel like it or not.”
Bortz, a specialist in internal medicine at the Pala Alto Medical Clinic in California and a clinical associate professor of medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, goes even further. “We should as a moral responsibility continue to be sexually active” he says. “Is it OK for a 75 year old widow to say “Sex is not on my agenda anymore?” I would challenge that and say “Maybe you should make an overt effort to make the rest of your life as full as you can.” And that includes being daring, flaunting the stereotypes!